Monday, August 22, 2011
What's up, folks? I was in the area so I decided to drop off a little blog to ya... like to hear it, here it goes!
It's funny how things change. The person of your dreams could be the main one starring in your nightmares. What starts well may go up in flames - but that's just a part of life. Recently, I spoke to a friend of mine and they were telling me about the demise of their relationship. Seems that when they got involved - they couldn't get enough of one another. One would begin a sentence and the other would finish it. It was destiny. Friends who become lovers who become one another. A match made in heaven tied up by the strings of commitment.
It was all a beautiful story until the wheels fell off their caravan of love.
She started to nag him like it was her full-time job.
He started to neglect her because of the nagging.
She started to resent him because she had to nag him to do anything.
He started to resent her because she didn't believe in him to do anything.
Pretty soon, they're arguing about who in the hell left the front gate open.
Next thing you know - they're dividing up who gets to keep what things out of the stuff they purchased together.
By the end of an ordeal like that, you can feel like the loneliest person in the world. It might seem fathomable to you in the midst of your struggles but we all go through breakups. They can be rough, and they can be amicable; no matter what, no one really wants to go through them. Nonetheless, you gotta do what you gotta do and move on.
Some people don't really know how to do that. I can't say that I'm an expert at the subject but I've been a part of a few break-ups in my 30 years on this earth so I'm here to give some tips on driving your U-Haul truck o' lovin back in the right direction.
Keep your distance.
Even if you and your ex have decided to stay friends, take a complete break from each other immediately after the breakup. That means no seeing each other, no phone calls, no e-mails, no instant messaging, and most importantly, no sleeping together- because spooning can lead to forking.
Talk to your friends.
Tell them about what a lowdown sleaze-bucket he or she was and how you were a saint. They'll belittle that person and you'll get a few laughs (and maybe a few drinks) at their expense. A win-win situation!
Find happiness in other areas of your life.
Whether that means spending time with your friends, taking up that class you've always wanted to take, or eating up all the groceries in the fridge, remind yourself that there's more to life than being in a relationship. Indulge in those things. As they say, the best revenge is living well.
See that there is no sense in still being heartbroken, regretful, and harboring hatred toward that person. Realize that although your relationship with that person was unique and special in a lot of ways, congratulate yourself for being able to be in something meaningful (as there are a lot of people who can't even get a date) and be encouraged that even though it didn't work out this time, there will be a next time - and last but not least...
Find various pieces of tail to compensate for the void in your heart by leaving a wet spot in your sheets. Ok, just kidding. This is the last thing you should ever do. Although I hope you're never in this situation; if you do find yourself in this predicament - take heed of my always sage advice and make sure you make the next one, the best one.
That's my time.
Before you go - tell me your thoughts, advice, stories.... on break-ups.
Have a good week - and I'll see you soon...
- Mr. Smart Guy